Swingers Lifestyle Tips
Many of us can benefit from swingers lifestyle tips, particularly when we’re new to the scene. Curious about the swinger lifestyle or ready to take your experience to the next level? At BonePage.com, we’re here to help you navigate the exciting world of consensual non-monogamy with confidence, clarity, and connection. Our swingers classified ads and directories are designed to bring open-minded adults together for fun, exploration, and authentic relationships.
We proudly support a vibrant, diverse community where individuals and couples of all sexual orientations, gender identities, and relationship styles are welcome. Whether you’re just beginning your journey or are a seasoned swinger, BonePage offers a safe and inclusive space to learn, connect, and express your desires without judgment.
From insightful articles to our robust listings of swingers clubs (also known as sex clubs), threesomes, wife swaps, kink-friendly meetups, and BDSM interests, BonePage is your go-to resource for everything in the lifestyle. Discover local events, meet like-minded people, and embrace the freedom that comes from exploring your sexuality on your terms.
Join us at BonePage.com—where your desires are respected, your curiosity is encouraged, and your experiences are yours to define. The swing scene at BonePage is always growing with new swingers lifestyle classifieds being posted every day. New folks come to visit every day and browse the ads. Polyamory is a huge trend among the newer generations and that’s boosted the swingers scene, which is great news for all of us!
My Swingers Lifestyle Journey
I’m Sienna Mitchell, a longtime contributing author here at BonePage. What you may not know is I’m also a longtime avid swinger! There is nothing quite like the excitement and passion of new sex partners. My own journey into the lifestyle was quite by happenstance. I was a junior in college at Arizona State University. After finals, I found myself partying in Tempe, among the clubs on Mill Avenue, where I met up with a fun, bubbly couple named Mark and Bobbie. We hit it off and did some bar hopping. I noticed Bobbie was really into me and was flirting, which was getting me hot as hell!
Long story short, we ended up at their apartment and had my very first threesome. Mark and Bobbie were more giving with their foreplay and sex than I had ever seen before. I had some of the most explosive orgasms of my life that night! We became both friends and lovers that night. Mark and Bobbie introduced me to their group of lifestyle friends and a local swingers group that held organized house sex parties. I met my current boyfriend and we continued meeting up with Mark and Bobbie regularly for great sex and friendship. We’ve expanded to other couples and clubs in certain cities where we regularly travel.
As a lifestyle participant, I feel most qualified to write this article. I have included some articles that were contributed by our partners who have joined the BonePage platform. Please join me in welcoming the Sex Clubs Network. They have disbanded their sites and decided to join us. We certainly welcome their participation here at BonePage Swingers Classifieds!
Swingers Clubs Directory

Local swingers clubs are usually discreet so if you pass one in the street you might think it is just a regular building, but inside you will find the most amazing, intense and sexy group of people you’ll ever meet. You will most likely be required to become a member of any local swing clubs you wish to attend as they aren’t usually open to the public. This ensures discretion among those socializing and participating in club activities.
Many people new to the swinging scene might not know what to look for when it comes to swingers clubs. One tip we can offer is to check the website of the club and read member reviews, as they tend to be very honest and informative and will give you a realistic idea of the place before you check it out.
If you are nervous about showing up to a swingers club alone, you can actually meet swinging singles or couples online in our swingers classifieds. Just select your location, click “swingers” and browse local ads. The ads change daily so be sure to bookmark the page and check back regularly.
The swingers community tends to be quite warm and welcoming. You’ll eventually find that everyone is more than willing to help you out – in more than one way! Kinksters are very common among us, so don’t be afraid to share your kinks. There is no kink shaming in the swingers community! Everyone is welcome and we are all excited to meet new arrivals!
Swinging 101: Get into the Swing of Things
Swinging is a fun and adventurous thing to become involved in. To become a swinging couple, first, you MUST have a mutual understanding and desire to become swingers. Treat your partner with the utmost respect and dignity while holding yourself to high integrity standards. This takes a lot of trust and commitment.
Indulging yourself in sexual relationships outside of your partnership or without your partner knowing is cheating and is not swinging. Arm yourself with the knowledge of art itself before you jump right in. Do everything you can to make your partner comfortable and express and reservations you may have with your mutual decision to become a swinging couple.
Don’t have a partner? Meet singles and couples interested in the swingers lifestyle.
Swinging 101: Get Your Partner on Board
While trying to convince your partner to become a sexy swinging couple, keep in mind that it isn’t for everyone and they may have a few questions and concerns about it. Bring up the topic slowly and be as sensitive as possible about it.
We, as human beings, tend to respond well to sensitivity and understanding. This means that if your partner agrees to try it out and then doesn’t like it, being calm and patient, they may find themselves fantasizing over time and decide to give it another go.
Be sure to reassure them often that you are in a committed relationship and your loyalty lies with them. You should keep your line of communication open at all times and be able to freely voice what is on your mind without fear of repercussions. Overall, be confident and have fun!
Swingers Etiquette
First, in Swingers Etiquette, keep in mind that you and your partner are there together! You are a swinging couple not single people in the dating scene. A lot of times one person in a relationship will wander off and end up cheating. THIS IS NOT THE SAME AS SWINGING! There are certain rules you must abide by and maintaining trust between couples is absolutely necessary. With that being said, let’s move on to our list of etiquette:
1. Be nice! The swinging scene is full of other people just like you. They have the same insecurities and uncertainties you do, so treat everyone with respect and sensitivity.
2. Always ask if the party host needs you to bring anything or is they need help with set up.
3. Come prepared! Bring any sexy underclothes you think you may want or need. Always practice safe sex, bring condoms and remain on birth control. Again, you’re a swinging couple and it’s your responsibility to keep your partner safe.
4. TAKE A SHOWER! No one wants to sleep with the stinky one. Don’t be that stinky one.
5. Take no for an answer. Don’t be pushy and persistent. Everyone has the right to say no.
6. You also have the right to say no. A simple, “No, thank you.” Is all that is needed. No need to ramble on and explain things in depth as this may cause some issues with people who may already be feeling insecure. We don’t aim to hurt feelings, we aim to please and be pleased!
7. Drinking is a social lubricant and helps with the anxiety that comes with trying out the lifestyle for the first time. Don’t drink yourself into a black-out though. It’s unattractive and may cause some, *Ahem* performance problems. (Hint Hint)
8. Be sure to thank the host of the party afterward. It’s just polite!
Follow The Rules!
When coming into the swinger’s lifestyle, these things are very important to understand and accept as a way of life. We as humans already know better than to commit crimes and not taking no for an answer is pretty obvious. But some of the rules are set in place to simply guide you along so you’re not viewed as rude or selfish, You’re here to be swingers and have fun, but these are people that you can connect with and actually befriend also. They are just as human as you are.
Now that you have all the etiquette to get started, get a club, become a member, find connections and start the parties. It’s very common for a couple to hold off on swinging until the third or fourth party they attend. No rush, just love.
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Wife Swaps
Wife Swaps used to have a pretty tarnished reputation as being somewhat of a joke among many (“take my wife…I wish someone would”). However, as a sub-culture, wife swapping has existed since the mid 1950’s. In those days it was done with as a social, yet highly secretive mini-society of middle-class neighbors. It was essentially a way to get to know who was on your side of the fence in terms of open-mindedness and frivolity, much like a secret handshake club.
It was also used as a foot in the door to promotions for those who were willing to extend their personal boundaries. If you got invited to a local party it meant they were testing you out, seeing how open you were to ‘sharing’ and it was generally the well-to-do upper middle class that responded in the affirmative.
Nowadays, wife swapping comes under many other titles and sub-culture lists, such as swinging, although there is a major difference between the two. Wife swaps are generally done on a sort of mutual basis, whereby two sets of spouses will have a private gathering in order to exchange partners for the evening with one another specifically. However, there are other ways to swap, which include parties at a private sex club or premises, where couples simply mingle, choose temporary partners and engage in some sexy fun.
Wife Swaps: Rules of Engagement
- Be clean and highly presentable when you turn up for a party or wife swap session
- Be polite and make sure you understand and follow the rules
- Remember that yes is yes and no definitely means no
- Never approach a partner without first engaging both spouses
- If requested or expected, ask permission from the spouse before engaging in relations with their significant other
- Always turn up with your own partner and leave with them
- Pay attention to your own partner throughout the evening
- Only ‘go’ with people you wish to engage with. Joining is not mandatory
- Leave the place as you find it and clean up after yourself
- Always wear appropriate protection
There is an etiquette involved in this type of social engagement, in much the same way as with the fetish or BDSM community. You are expected to observe proper manners and behavior in an almost chivalrous fashion. People expect to be treated with politeness, dignity and respect, above all else.
New to Wife Swaps?
If you have talked about swapping as a couple and it is something you both want to try you can join clubs or find local swingers in your area in the BonePage swingers profiles. In BonePage profiles you can narrow your search to singles, couples or groups who are looking to have a threesome. You might also find people who are having a swing party in your area.
One thing that is absolutely vital to your mutual enjoyment of wife swapping is that both spouses are equally as enthusiastic about it. If just one of you is more interested than the other it could cause issues. You both have to be equally willing to participate, so make sure you talk thoroughly about the implications before you directly engage in the practice.
Swingers and Roundabouts
Observing the rules of etiquette is the best way to understand how the swinging or wife swapping lifestyle works. There truly are some very chivalrous codes of practice and when you think about the manners that people have to exhibit it makes everyday life seem almost rude. We don’t pick people up in bars by saying ‘get your coat honey, you got lucky tonight’ and winking at them. They are more likely to follow you home if you are kind and respectful.
Many people are under the illusion that swapping your spouse is thoughtless, but really speaking, those who do it are not looking to be unfaithful with permission.
They are looking to keep the spice in their relationship. Sometimes, just being with their spouse is not enough and they want to experience new sides of sex play and, if both spouses are consenting, there is nothing wrong with it.
You might find that it is mostly men who suggest wife swapping, which is not really surprising. Men also prefer another woman in the bed with them one threesomes, too. With wife swapping, you may find that some men prefer to choose the partner that their wife will join with, while they have the option to choose whomever they want. Some couples prefer that, while others are more open to anything.
So, with that in mind, remember the rules, remember to be polite and thoughtful to your own spouse and enjoy safe sex play with whomever you choose at the swinger’s party.
Swinging 101 Tip: Start With a Threesome
Starting off on the safe side, choose a mutual third party to join in on the sexy fun. Get a little bit of liquid courage and throw a new sexy third wheel in the mix and make her (or him!) the center of attention! This will make them feel wanted and come back for more. Make sure to show affection to your partner. Remember, this may be a lot for them!
Moving on steadily to the foursomes and group orgies, after you’re ready to go all-in, throw out all reservations and move forward on trust and passion. The more the merrier and trust me, the is no merrier place on earth and a bed full of sexy people emitting hormones and oozing sexual pleasure.
Bring on the kinky sex play and girls from hell to breakfast! We’re ready and so are you! Think of the places you can go! We’ll help you find it and maybe even go along for the ride! 
Men Want threesomes
If you ask most men if they want a threesome you will probably get about 90% answering yes. This is largely because many men see a threesome not only as a way of expressing their sexual prowess and showing off their equipment but also because having a threesome is like adding another dimension to a relationship.
Threesomes hardly resemble regular lovemaking or sex, really. They are the pinnacle of a sexual experience that requires imagination and thought as well as manners and sensitivity. It’s not just a weak moment of ‘wham-bam, thank you ma’am’; in fact, quite the opposite. A threesome has to be arranged, discussed, agreed to and adhered to, when it comes to rules.
If you have never tried a threesome you might want to grab a pen and paper because it’s not as simple as you think. There are basic rules that can help you avoid faux pas, mistakes, and absolutely awful encounters. If you take note of those rules you might just survive a threesome to live another day.
What is a threesome, exactly?
Well, there are quite a few different combinations of threesomes that you could engage in, and they include;
- Man, man, woman (straight man, straight man, straight woman)
- Woman, man, woman (straight man, bisexual woman, straight/bi-curious/bisexual woman)
- Man, man, man (gay man, bisexual/bi-curious man, bi-curious/bisexual/gay man)
- Woman, woman, woman (lesbian, bi-curious/bisexual woman, bisexual, bi-curious, lesbian woman)
- Husband, wife and additional woman
- Husband, wife and additional man
- Wife and wife and additional man or woman
- Husband and husband and additional man or woman
Those are more or less the permutations possible for a threesome, but forgive us if we missed any! This is just to give you a general idea and other combinations are at your discretion.
What Rules Apply for a Threesome?
Well, the rules are there are no rules except those you set out before you start. Each person has a limit and those limits must be adhered to. If needed, use a ‘safe word’ to end a play to be sure that no one gets hurt physically or emotionally.
- Be respectful of each other and write down the agreed-upon rules, giving each person a copy
- Always wear protection
- Always be hygienic
- Avoid jealousy by agreeing beforehand what your ‘couple’ limits are
- Don’t be all about ego. Many men might feel left out if their wives have too much fun with another woman, but get over it. They will get to you eventually!
- Respect the cycle of sex. With a threesome, you have to do a kind of ‘round robin’ where everyone gets a bite of the cake, so share freely and don’t hog one position or one situation.
- Be creative. You don’t have to just ram your rod into a woman and hope that it’s enough. Use your tongue, your fingers and be receptive to being given some pointers that please her. Not all women like the same things, so be open to instruction and don’t get all bent out of shape if says she doesn’t like something.
- If you don’t know where to look to find a potential third person, try BonePage swingers profiles for local singles or couples into threesomes.
Is a Threesome like Swinging?
Having a threesome is similar to swinging but not exactly the same. Swingers tend to move from one swing partner to another during the course of the evening but with a private threesome you are limited to just the three of you.
What you can do to widen the scope is be creative and use each other’s bodies with imagination and flair. Move around, use different surfaces, sex toys, the shower, the bath and make it an outstanding evening for all three of you. If using this threesome is a practice preamble to attending a swing club it is good experience to learn the behavior that most swing clubs—or sex clubs— expect of their patrons.
Now that you know a little more about the rules of a threesome, you might feel a little more sure about trying it. Just remember that your partner has to want this too. It’s not all about you, it’s a joint decision. Talking is always the best solution to solving differences, so go ahead and enjoy it together.
Not everyone has the chance to visit a swing club and many people would rather not go alone. BonePage is a great site that lets you meet local swingers and you can buddy up with them if you feel weird about going by yourself for the first time. It’s completely free to sign up and really quick and easy to use for finding local swing fans. Give it a shot and see how you get on.
Sienna Mitchell, First Amendment Reporter
Sienna Mitchell is a contributing author for BonePage.com adult classifieds. She is a talented and experienced First Amendment reporter and published author based in Phoenix, Arizona. With a passion for uncovering stories and exposing injustices within the adult entertainment community, Sienna has made a name for herself as a reporter who focuses on the intersection of first amendment issues and the adult entertainment industry.
Sienna’s prior experience as a webcam model gives her a unique perspective on the challenges faced by sex workers and adult performers. Her experience and extensive knowledge of the adult industry makes her an authoritative voice on the subject. Sienna Mitchell is a skilled reporter whose work is making a difference in the adult entertainment industry.
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